Reason to write Aha! expereinces

In my previous post I wrote about all of us having aha moments, some or the other time. And, I have a reason to believe that why should we share and write those moments?

Think about what happens when we think of one such time? We become conscious of not just the external but also our inner world. We become aware of our thoughts and feelings of the moment. This is living in the moment, living in the present!

“Mindfulness is a source of happiness” ~Thich Nhat Hanh

Mindful living is useful and therapeutic. We come closer to our true self and understand ourselves better. We are more focused, stable, and have more control on our actions. With mindful-living we can have less stress and better relationships in our lives.

Writing and sharing is a conscious effort to re-live that time. While writing about the experience, we strive to look out for the words and phrases which appropriately describe our emotions and thoughts. It is an effort to look deep into ourselves to know exactly how we went through that experience. When we share or tell someone about any of our experiences, we strengthen its effect on our lives.

Having something therapeutic is not a need for only those who are in suffering of any kind. I believe it is for all those who want to do better than their present and achieve higher. For all those who want to optimize their potential.

It is for all those who want to and,

CARE TO GROW!

Authority Relearnt

I was born first followed by three siblings. Dominance, I suppose, was imbibed in me. Additionally being a daughter of bureaucrat in India, I always observed and had the assistance of a servant, peon or a driver. To command and demand from people was natural and obvious part of life.

Living in USA and practicing psychology, however, changed me. It was not just cooking and living on my own,  but, numerous small tasks like photocopying, cleaning my office, getting water (the tasks for which in India we generally depend on peons to do), that made me more self sufficient.

I discovered my beliefs in individual importance. In my approach to counseling I was client centered and non directive. I would regard all equal in my therapy room: a rich person would be treated same as poor. I would regard individuals beyond their class and levels, beyond their age and gender, and beyond their race and ethnicity.

As I joined work in an organization, I was required to maintain a hierarchy. I had people working for me, and I needed to command, direct and lead. I wondered if I needed to be autocratic to get work done. What it takes to be good authority? Is it a trait or some skill that can be learnt? How to manage people and get things done? And, in deeper sense, how to get people work for you out of love and respect rather than a terror.

Power comes from position, money and knowledge. But authority is not just about executing powers. It is also about possessing the traits which reflect radiance and gain respect from everyone around. Having authority means being able to positively influence people at all levels within an organization, because you are a trusted and respected figure; and you are perceived as having expertize and knowledge in your field.

A few things I have found basic and important for being an effective authority at work:

Quote: Gabriel Garcia Marquez

"Human being are not born once and for all
on the day their mothers give birth to them,
but...life obliges them over and over again
to give birth to themselves."

Understand

Stop talking, 

Stop thinking 

and 

there is nothing you will not understand