Perspectives

My girl was not happy. She said she did not enjoy the fair. She mentioned that she did not eat the floss candy, did not tell her name to that Uncle over there and, she did not get the balloons. I wondered why only these incidents were in her mind. Nevertheless, I replied instantly, “but then you had a good bike ride, and you got a soft teddy bear for putting the ball in the basket and, you got a beautiful strawberry tattoo made on your palm. You also danced on your favorite number Kolavari.” And asked again, “So how did you enjoy the fair?” Her response changed immediately. I enjoyed it very much, and later on she kept telling it to everyone.

In this case, it was a three-year old so one can say that it is easy to change the mind. But, shouldn’t it be easy for the adults to do the same? Why negative aspects remain more intense and overpowering in our mind than the positive ones? Once, a girl of class XII was upset about her math paper. She had messed up a question worth 5 marks out of 100. After the exam all she remembered was that 5-mark question and cried hell throughout the day. She did not or could not relish the achievement of solving the rest questions worth 95 Marks.

Never sleep sleepless

One of my friends told me that a critical issue in his office was resolved. It was a great relief for him. He told that he couldn’t even sleep for that whole night, thinking about it. I was certainly happy for him, but what caught my attention more, was his sleepless night. And I wondered if there is ever a point in sleeping sleeplessly. As it is said, no lock is made without a key, so there is always a way out of any situation or problem. Something or the other comes out. And better will come out if we sleep sound, rather than disturbed. Worrying will neither solve our problems nor will allow us to think differently. Worrying is a habit that we should get rid of.

Worrying is natural too. Whenever one encounters a problem or a difficult situation, he/she worries for the outcome. Beneath every such worry there is a fear: fear of failure, fear of being caught, fear of losing the dear ones etc. There are three key steps to combat such fear:

1.       Being truthful to yourself and others
2.       Being sincere in your deeds and intentions
3.       Having faith in God/ Destiny

Whenever you find yourself worrying, just think of these three simple points. It will result in fearless &  positive mind.  And, you can sleep tight all night!