My girl was not happy. She said she
did not enjoy the fair. She mentioned that she did not eat the floss candy, did
not tell her name to that Uncle over there and, she did not get the balloons. I
wondered why only these incidents were in her mind. Nevertheless, I replied
instantly, “but then you had a good bike ride, and you got a soft teddy bear
for putting the ball in the basket and, you got a beautiful strawberry tattoo
made on your palm. You also danced on your favorite number Kolavari.” And asked again, “So how did you enjoy the fair?” Her response
changed immediately. I enjoyed it very much, and later on she kept telling it
to everyone.
In this case, it was a three-year old
so one can say that it is easy to change the mind. But, shouldn’t it be easy for
the adults to do the same? Why negative aspects remain more intense and
overpowering in our mind than the positive ones? Once, a girl of class XII was
upset about her math paper. She had messed up a question worth 5 marks out of
100. After the exam all she remembered was that 5-mark question and cried hell
throughout the day. She did not or could not relish the achievement of solving
the rest questions worth 95 Marks.
